It has been three months since I started my blog and the journey has been absolutely amazing. Although I have not had the chance to post consistently on a weekly basis, I am proud to say that I have met some friends — readers who found my blog and sent me comments and emails and shared their dreams and stories with me.
Last night I received a question from a reader asking:
“I set the intention to be in a stable home before summer. At present it seems impossible but I have witnessed many miracles in my life and I’m not going to put this one as impossible. My question is: If for some reason it doesn’t happen, could it be something that I did wrong?”
Here is my response:
I sincerely believe we are the creators of our own reality and that when we dream, we really want to dream big. I have heard people say that if your dream was able to be fulfilled by something you can do, your dream probably isn’t big enough.
I would like to offer some of my opinions to your question (the key word here is ‘opinions’).
It has recently come to my attention with the wonderful teachers I have attracted into my life regarding the importance of “receiving”. It is like the last frontier in the journey of manifesting our realities and I am going to a seminar next Saturday to learn about how I can fully receive my desires.
There are certain important elements to think of:
1. Do you truly believe your desires can manifest?
This is an important one because it is not something we can be consciously aware of. We are brought up with a lot of “limiting beliefs” of what is actually possible. These limiting beliefs are hidden in our subconscious and can remain hidden unless something is actively done to uncover and eliminate these limiting beliefs.
To give you an example of a limiting belief:
“I believe the man I am with is more important than I am and his needs comes before my own”
When I used to think this way, I would be the best girlfriend to my ex-boyfriends but none of them really respected me in the way I desire to be respected. Only after I discovered that I did not respect my own needs was I able to attract a man who truly respects my needs. This is an on-going struggle of mine.
In the case of your desire for your dream home, there are several questions you can consider asking yourself:
– do I really believe I can be living in my dream home?
– do I have some inherent fear at the back of my mind that I might not be able to manifest my dream home?
– what are some of the things I have heard other people say that may influence my faith in manifesting my dream home?
2. Do you think you are truly deserving of your dream home?
This is a very important idea to consider. As women, we are often brought up to put other peoples’ needs ahead of our own and we may go through our entire lives giving instead of receiving. Even when things are given to us, we may actually feel bad about it instead of feeling grateful. I have a difficult time with this one myself. It took me a long time to feel like I deserve something because on the subconscious level, I was afraid of wanting something and fearing that what I want might not come true simply because I didn’t believe I deserved something.
To answer your question about the cause of an intention not manifesting the way you want it to manifest, I also have some ‘opinions’ to offer:
As hard as this may seem, there is no right and wrong in the universe. Judgement is not the true essence of God. I personally believe in reincarnation and that the physical body is only a temporary shelter of our spirit. Whatever we choose to do becomes a lesson learned by our spirit. In the world of spirits, lessons learned are more important than what is right or wrong. Feeling guilty or fearing that you might do something wrong only creates a hidden level of resistance to aligning your desires with their physical manifestation.
One funny thing I realized is that I am not always given what I thought I have asked for. For example, In 2006, I had set an intention that I would like to make $100,000/year by the end of 2007. The end of 2007 came around and my tax form clearly spelled out that I had only earned $40,000. However, it came to my realization that I had gotten married that year and my combined income with my husband amount to approximately $100,000!! So, I didn’t actually make $100,000 by myself, but I now have $100,000 in combined income with my husband in the year 2007. The universe really have very funny ways of giving me what I wanted in the least expected ways.
Also, when I wasn’t given something that I thought I want, something better or more appropriate usually comes along some how. The universe seem to have some level of wisdom I do not have to figure out how things can be best manifested for me. Sometimes we will never find out why certain things are not manifested and sometimes we can only discover the universe’s true wisdom in hinsight.
In conclusion, you can NEVER do anything wrong. What you CAN do is to spend some time examining your limiting beliefs and fears (and it is not wrong to have them either, you are simply programmed with them as you were growing up). If something doesn’t happen to you exactly the way you want it, have faith that the best solutions will present itself to you. Having the faith that you deserve anything you desire is one thing you can do to put yourself in alignment with what you want.
Lastly, a bit of homework if you are up to it. Make a visioning board of your dream home, or a big list of what you want in your dream home. Take 5~15 minutes before you go to sleep and the moment you wake up to visualize what it might look like and visualize yourself ‘living’ in it 🙂 This is a difficult exercise, I must be honest that I have yet to reach the level of discipline to do such daily visualization exercises. I know if I did, all my intentions will manifest so quickly I probably wouldn’t know what to do with myself.
I really enjoyed writing to you. You give me so much inspiration to write. I have never thought of myself as much of a writer since English is my second language but man, you got me all fired up!!