One day after dinner, my three year old son Dante, was playing with his Daddy and suddenly out of nowhere, he asserted to my husband, “Daddy, I used to be your Daddy!”
“Oh Really? Are you sure? Were you the Daddy or Mommy?” My husband responded with amusement while giving me a sideways glance.
“I was your Mommy.” Dante said.
“Ok, that sounds great!” My husband said without asking any more questions as Dante sat in front of his iPad and selected a cartoon he would like to watch next.
In hindsight, I wish we could have asked a little bit more questions but Dante had terminated the conversation himself and thought nothing strange of it. Between Dante and his two year old brother Cedric, Dante has always been more attached to my husband. If his father is around, he will only play with his father. He wants his father to put him to bed all the time and no one else. He must know where his Daddy is at all times. This is a lot like what parents do for their kids, they want to know what their kids are up to and want to make sure that the children are well taken care of. Maybe Dante is still being a mommy even if he is only three years of age.
Luckily for Dante, he chose parents who support the things he would say. We listened to him patiently and did not tell him what he was saying was “non-sense” like some other parents might have done. Dante also knows his brother Cedric very well. There are times when Cedric is crying and unable to voice his needs because he does not have to language abilities as a two year old, we would ask Dante, “Dante, what does Cedric want? Why is Cedric crying?” And Dante, depending on the situation, would either tell us what Cedric wanted, or, disappear for a moment and bring back Cedric’s favorite toy car. Nine out of ten times when we asked Dante how to soothe Cedric, he has given us really good advice.
I am looking forward to fostering the intuitive abilities of my children. I can’t wait to hear more of their “wisdom” as they become more expressive.